(Scream)
Driver panics (at scream, not at any outside threat) and hits brakes; he nearly gets rammed by the car behind. Everyone is a nervous wreck.
Fear.
This tone wears many disguises. It slips down to influence the Sympathy person (who is afraid of hurting others) and Propitiation (where we see the strange manifestation of a person attempting to buy off imagined danger by propitiating), and it sneaks upward on the tone scale to lurk behind Covert Hostility and No Sympathy tones.
Most people harbor a few select, temporary fears. We see the tough, swaggering student who turns to a quivering butterfly in the seat of an airplane. We see a housewife who has the courage to be a Cub Scout den mother, but who quails at the sight of a harmless snake. We see the bull strength of the business tycoon melt into a pool of limp terror when forced to give a speech. Although irrational, these fears are not necessarily chronic, so they don't indicate that the person is a 1.0.
There is a time to be afraid, just as there is a time for joy or grief. It's sensible to have a respect for danger when caught in a burning house or a New York taxicab. That's survival.
Acute Fear (whether rational or irrational) causes a pounding heart,
a cold sweat or trembling. This may be fear of actual death, injury or
merely some harmless menace. Stark terror is the highest volume of Fear.
In low volume, we see Fear expressed as excessive shyness, extreme modesty,
or unwarranted suspicions. We find the person who gets tongue-tied easily,
who withdraws from people, who jumps at a door slam.
In Grief we find anxiety taking a limp form ("Oh, dear, how am I going
to handle this? I just don't know what I can do.") but at the higher tone
of Fear the person tries to handle all of the anxieties. Of course, he's
pretty ineffectual, but he does work hard at it.
Sometimes (not always) you can see this dispersal in his eyes when he
talks to you— they flit over here, over there, up, down—everywhere but
straight ahead. He can't look at you.
Where a higher-tone person will plan his attack on the enemy force, Fear is always planning his defense (if he's on the high side) or his retreat (if he's on the low side of Fear).
When there's a robbery on the other side of town, Fear puts extra locks on his doors. If he lives in Minnesota, but learns of a deadly new mosquito breeding in the tropics, he get anxious about it. His attention flits all over the universe trying to cover every possible danger.
In case you think there aren't many people at Fear, let me remind you of the now famous Orson Wells radio broadcast "The War of the Worlds" in 1938-a realistic but fictional report of a Martian "invasion." An estimated one million listeners missed the three announcements about the fictional nature of the program and panicked. Telephone lines were hopelessly jammed and people were running in the streets. A Fear person is gullible and credulous about fearful things. He selectively hears only communications on his own level.
A smooth-talking insurance salesman chalks up a bonus day when he meets
up with a Fear person—the poor devil will buy one of everything.
I once lived across the street from a Fear couple. His face compressed with deep worry lines, completely bald at the age of twenty-nine ( I don't know if that's relevant; but I'll mention it anyway), he and his wife worried constantly about germs, diseases, bad health, burglaries, accidents and disasters. Name anything dreadful—they dreaded it. Before letting their children out to play, they bundled them up like Eskimos for fear of catching colds. Interestingly, their two youngsters suffered more colds and illnesses than any children on the block.
One quiet Sunday morning I saw this neighbor cautiously emerge from his house. After carefully testing the door to make certain it was locked, he walked to the garage and unlocked it. After unlocking his car, he drove out to the gate, which he also unlocked. He backed the car out, returned to the garage and locked it, walked down the drive, put the chain padlock back on the gate and drove off.
Impressed, I thought: he must be leaving for a month. (We weren't living in the heart of the crime belt, you understand. The most serious wrongdoing in this bland suburban community during the previous six months was when a three-year-old youngster down the street toddled off with another three-year-old's tricycle). Ten minutes later, however, the neighbor returned with the Sunday papers. He unlocked the gate, the garage, and went through the whole lockup routine in reverse. This chap could put the security system at Fort Knox to shame.
While we were living in the same neighborhood, a salesman called one evening trying to sell a fire alarm system. We turned him down, but as he left I thought: If he would only stop across the street, they'll surely buy one.
Well, he did, and they did.
He tells her he loves her and she wonders what that really means: "I don't want to say I love you; it might turn out that I don't."
There won't be much free-wheeling love from a Fear partner. He's too careful to be spontaneous.
Fear parents strongly influence their children. I once knew a woman who actually hid in the bedroom closet whenever there was a thunder storm. Her fearful mother taught her to do this. I knew another woman who was afraid of cats, "My mother always said they were dangerous. You know, they're supposed to carry all sorts of diseases-at least that's what Mother told me."
A contagious emotion, Fear. Unless he takes the trouble to examine all
the boogies himself, the child grows up convinced that nearly everything
is dangerous.
Convinced that huge effort and energy are necessary to overcome his imaginary barriers, he'd rather put off than confront them. So he invents reasons why he can't do a job.
He tries to avoid responsibility at all cost (he thinks he'd be hurt): "Oh no, you're not going to get me to take on that job. Everybody would be passing the buck to me. I'd have to take the blame for everything that goes wrong."
While he's better than all the tones below this, you have a poor job
risk here.
This is not the apathetic indecision of Grief ("I just don't know what to do"). At Fear the person actively vacillates between "Should I ?" and "Shouldn't I ?"
When a higher-tone person hits this level of the scale, he finds it uncomfortable. Here we see the young girl faced with the choice between two eligible men. She likes them both; she can't decide; she wavers back and forth. Finally, the indecision becomes so painful that she impulsively makes a choice (she may even run away with a third man who is totally unsuitable). Anything to move off that maybe.
Some Fear people, however, live in indecision for years—waiting for some occurrence to tip the scale. Such an individual is afraid to be right and he doesn't dare be wrong. He's afraid to and he's afraid not to. He can't commit himself. He can't plan the future, and he can't face the present. If you ask him to set up an appointment a few days in advance, he can't: "Call me later. We'll see what happens." (The more high-tone a person is, the more willingly he will commit himself to something in the future.)
Here we find the couple who date each other for seventeen years because
they're afraid to get married. He's the man who wants to change jobs, but
can't muster the nerve; he grows old waiting for the right impetus. Here's
the miserable marriage that continues on because neither person works up
the courage to resolve it or end it.
That's blind hope. Waiting. Indecision. That's the dead center of Fear.
Fear is the last of the soft emotions. Now we're going to leave the mushy marshes and pick our way through a stretch of barbed wire...